I waited for years for him to accept me and to love me. I thought if I changed myself enough, he’d give me a chance and that he’d love me. The good thing is because of him, I learned a lot about love and life. I learned a lot of things about myself. I learned to accept myself and love myself. Because of him I grew a lot as a person. And as a result I came to see that this wasn’t the best relationship for me.

I guess deep down I always knew, I was too afraid to admit it because I didn’t want to lose him. But one day it just clicked– I knew I was waiting for someone that would never accept me nor love me.

I had wasted so much of my time and energy fretting on the one thing I couldn’t change… his mind.

I hung onto the hope that someday things would somehow work out between us. But now looking back, the easiest (and best) thing for me to do was to walk away.

What I really want is to find someone who does love me and accept me for who I am. Someone that wants to be with me, spend time with me and grow old with me.

Not someone who came up with constant excuses as to why he couldn’t spare five minutes to call me.

I realised that the only reason he was in my life, was because I wanted him to be in my life, not because he wanted to. And by trying to make him stay, I had over looked my own value.

When you try to keep people who want to leave from leaving… you are no longer giving them a reason to stay.

And to not be wanted by someone that you want is a very painful feeling indeed. Something I let myself feel over and over again, when I had the opportunity to walk away…many, many times.

Maybe I wasn’t ready, maybe it wasn’t the right time for me. I had to be in the right place emotionally to be able to walk out of that toxic relationship.

This is my story…

Remember that you are your own salvation. If there is a situation in life that you don’t like, you have the power to change it.

If you can’t change it, change yourself or walk away. These are all possibilities within your reach.

Learn from my story don’t wait on any man to love you. People who want to be in your life will make an effort to be in it.

If not they’ll find an excuse.

Your Turn:

Have you ever in a relationship where you felt as if you weren’t a priority their life? What was the turning point that made you walk away from that situation?

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