[Note: In case you’re wondering, this post is a followup to this last post, which got more comments than any other blog post we’ve ever written in almost two years here.]

medium_881887677Okay, so sorry to keep you hanging from that previous blog post

Anyway, I’ve been reluctant to talk about something for a while now, but I think it’s about time we had a little heart-to-heart here…

As you may (or may not) know, this whole relationship advice thing has unfolded in a strangely beautiful way.

When I first started writing for a few little websites years ago, I never DREAMED that we would have the kind of impact that we have now.

We’ve been featured on places like Huffington Post Live (where I was actually interviewed live on air!), the Match.com blog, and tons of other place on the internet. I’ve even had writers for major magazines like Redbook asking me for advice on articles they were writing.

But more than media attention, what touches me more is helping thousands of people transform their relationships by healing the rift between them and their partner, or by helping them find the love that eluded them for so long.

In fact, just last weekend, Mika and I met up for coffee with one of our clients who we helped cope with a particularly challenging breakup.

And part of me is still surprised to think that the small insights we offer can really turn people’s lives from what seems like a no-win situation into a powerful catalyst for grown and stepping into a happier life and relationship.

It’s moments like this that make what we do 1000 times better :)

And wow! Mika and I have been humbled along the way, and we have learned so much!

So, Here’s What I Was Hinting at Last Time…

Over the years, Mika and I have been:

  • Nicely asked…
  • Strongly encouraged…
  • Begged…
  • Pleaded with…

To share our wealth of information and work intensely one-on-one with you to help you create a tailored plan that fits your unique situation to help you get the relationship you want.

For YEARS, we’ve resisted this…

You know there are the usual excuses… Not having enough time… Thinking we need more preparation… Not thinking people would really be interested in learning our advanced techniques and strategies.

And, well… I’m also a little bit of a perfectionist.

It’s kind of a weird story, but I once stayed up all night in grad school making sure the font was just right for a project…

(don’t ask…)

Anyway, the point, is that if Mika and I do this, we’re going to have to do this 110% of the way, or not at all.

After all, I know that your relationships are the most important thing in your life. The people who we share our lives with really determine the quality of the experiences we have.

And both Mika and I approach this with just as much seriousness because we know how important this part of your life is for you.

How I’m Trying to Learn from the Past

Back when Mika and I first started writing for various websites back in the day, people told me that we should start our own blog… That our ideas were good enough that we should strike out on our own.

The idea scared me a bit, but here you are, reading our blog…

And then people started telling us that they wanted us to help them truly master this whole relationship side of their life, so we made a few programs like the Passion Program, which people have told has been a complete “game changer,” saved their relationship, and revealed the “blind spots” that kept them from finding the love they want.

And the success stories we get every time we open our email inboxes really warms my heart.

It would have been small minded to not take on those new things.

And maybe NOT giving you personal one-on-one help and guidance to form a just-right-for-you plan is just as small-minded…

I’m Seriously Considering Doing This…

Despite our hesitations and perfectionism, Mika and I are seriously thinking about offering highly-customized, intensive, one-on-one help to guide you from where ever you are right now, to sharing those warm and genuine moments of joy and connection with the person you love, and who is unquestionably in love with you…

…even if things seem hopeless right now.

And these are the advanced, and extremely deep practices and techniques that have transformed our own lives in the past.

(I would have LOVED it if someone would have helped me in this way back in 2006, when I was alone and confused, my heart shattered after hanging up the phone after my ex dumped me… and I was basically forced to learn all of this and find my own path the hard way.)

If We Do This, It Will Be a Lot of Work for Us…

I’m truly excited about sharing this stuff with you and helping you, and I know this could be what some people will need to finally have the relationship they’ve always wanted…

…but I also know that my little projects can sometimes get out of hand.

So, right now I only want to do this if there is interest in it.

So, I’d like to know…

  • What do you think?
  • Should we do this?
  • Would you be interested?

Your feedback and thoughts are really the fuel that keep me going.

And I don’t even want to think about doing this unless there is enough interest.

Please Leave a Comment Below Telling Me What You Think

It would really mean a lot to me.

And I’ll do my best to respond to each and every comment.


Clay is an author, blogger, and dating and relationship coach for Loving Boldly. He is also a nap enthusiast, coffee aficionado, and home brewer.

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