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2. The Mentality Behind “Meant to Be”

flower2I can’t help but raise my eyebrows when people bring up the subject of “meant to be” or “Soulmates.” The whole mentality behind all this sets each partner up to lose themselves in their relationship.

The “Meant to Be” mentality creates this false notion that your relationship is supposed to be effortless and easy… all the time.

And when your relationship hits a rough spot it becomes so easy to automatically question your relationship.

Making your relationship the center of your life forces you to have only one outlet for love and fulfillment and this puts a lot of pressure on your relationship to be an endless source of pure bliss.

But we all know that all emotions are fleeting and  just like with life, relationships have their ebb and flow. When your relationship hits a point where it’s not always “rainbows and butterflies,” the daily ins and outs of your relationship may fall short of your expectations which will only cause disappointments and resentment.

This mentality loses your sense of self as your relationship begins define who you are as a person.

Not only does this suffocate the relationship from any potential room for growth, but indifference creeps in and causes you stop seeing your partner as an individual person with their own  thoughts, feelings, fears and desires apart from your own.


Mika enjoys helping others overcome their limiting beliefs that prevent them from having the relationship they want. She is also not a fan of being tickled and hopes that one day, Clay, will finally realize that, as they have way too many tickle fights...And Mika has a not-so-secret love affair with chocolate.

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