Clay and I get bombarded with emails everyday from people who are experiencing relationship turmoil or general dissatisfaction in their relationship. They’re either going through a tough breakup or at their wits end in trying to rekindle a failing relationship.

Every situation is different but what most of our reader’s emails have in common are the anguish and fear that they’ll never fix their relationship.

I remember what it’s like crying into your pillow at night because of the stabbing pain in your chest from a broken heart.

Or the daunting sucking-the-air-between-your-teeth fear of losing your partner. I also know that dreadful feeling that your relationship has met its expiration date as thoughts of leaving your partner slowly creeps into your mind.

If you’re on the verge of pressing the “eject” button in your relationship or if  you’re desperately clinging to getting your relationship back as if it’s your life preserver on a sinking ship, here are a few things I think you should know about why many relationships don’t have a shot of succeeding.

Losing Sight of Why You’re in a Relationship

Just like any other person, I love being in love. However, when I lost sight of why I was in a relationship in the first place, my relationship with Clay began to really suffer.

When you and your partner were in the beginning stages of dating, you both only wanted each other then…you didn’t need him or her to make you feel complete. You both were riding the blissful waves of falling-head-over-heels-in-love.

Eventually when the sea calmed down and life got back to normal, many people were left wondering, “what the heck happened to us? We used to be great together. Is this the beginning of the end of our relationship?”

Life happened. You and your partner entered a different phase in your relationship where you both had to learn to coexist with one another and try to maintain a thriving relationship.


Mika enjoys helping others overcome their limiting beliefs that prevent them from having the relationship they want. She is also not a fan of being tickled and hopes that one day, Clay, will finally realize that, as they have way too many tickle fights...And Mika has a not-so-secret love affair with chocolate.

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