How to Take Your Relationship to the Next Level

next-levelSo here we are at a new year.

If you’re like a lot of people, this is the time that you make resolutions and dream about how you’d like to use this year to take your relationship to the next level.

But I also know that if you’re like most people, you may not have made good progress with the goals and resolutions you made last year. Maybe you’ve let them slip toward the Graveyard of Someday.

Be honest with yourself.

Are you in a better spot now than you were a year ago? Maybe you’re even in a worse spot.

New Years is a great time to pause and reflect on your life, but what does it take to finally make this year the year that you take your relationship to the next level?

Well, let’s think about this for a moment.

How Do You Get to the Next Level?

Many years ago, I used to work in the architecture industry. I worked on designing buildings.

In a building, you go to the next level, by simply taking the stairs.

If you wanted to get from the ground floor of a building to the next floor up, you’d find the stair case and you’d put one foot in front of the next until you made it up to the next level.

What’s important in this little metaphor is that you’re not just leaping directly from one level to the next.

You have to take it one step at a time.

One tiny step at a time that takes you up a few inches. Those small steps add up and before you know it, you’re up on the next floor of the building.

Pretty simple (and pretty obvious), right?

Let’s take a look at how this relates to relationships, because that’s why you’re here, right?


Clay is an author, blogger, and dating and relationship coach for Loving Boldly. He is also a nap enthusiast, coffee aficionado, and home brewer.

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4 thoughts on “How to Take Your Relationship to the Next Level

  • January 8, 2013 at 9:10 am

    Great post! I agree our need for immediate gratification make us want to achieve everything right away is what causes us to fail the majority of the time. Great things don’t happen in great leaps but in the mundane little choices we make in everyday life… Love it!


    Mika Replied:

    Love your comment, Karen!
    Instant gratification is soooo tempting and easy to succumb to. Hopefully that’s when awareness steps in and makes you think like “ya, know what… I KNOW I’ll feel like shit if I eat this whole pizza by myself, I think I’ll have one slice instead.” Can you tell, I used to eat my feelings? hahah:) Thanks for stopping by!


  • January 29, 2013 at 7:09 pm

    Great advice for the new year… I especially like the section on continued love. It reminds me of an article I recently read


    Clay Replied:

    @Giorgio, Yeah, love is something you have to commit to making into a constant, never-ending process, not a destination. Thanks for your comment.



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