Hey there, Clay here!
Anyway, thanks for all your comments and everything last week with the post on your inner critic.
Mika and I have been chasing our tails this past week putting together a presentation for folks going through breakups.
Anyway, we did a live presentation last night and we were really blown away by the results (in a really good way)!
But I know that a lot of people that read this blog are going through breakups or their partner left them and I just really want to have a conversation with you today.
You see, this is something that I’ve dealt with before in the past.
I just turned 30, and it really has me looking back on my 20’s and reflecting on my life.
The very first time I went through a breakup was when I was 21. I didn’t know that anything could hurt that much!
I was going through college at the time and it was nearly impossible to focus on school. My thoughts just kept going back to her…
And let me tell you, I did all that stuff you’re not supposed to do. I begged, I pleaded, heck! I even l called her a bunch of times.
You see, I knew that this kind of thing wasn’t really helping my chances…
But I just wanted to know why!
Why is it that this woman who used to love me so much… who wanted to share her life with me… who had a vision of our future together…
Why had she suddenly turned away from me and become so indifferent?
Why was it so easy to get a hug and share the most deepest and intimate things with her just a few short days ago, but now I couldn’t even get her to pick up the phone?
I wanted to know how I messed up. And I wanted to know how to fix it.
Thoughts like this haunted me for the next several weeks as I really struggled to finish up the school year without completely flunking (fortunately, I did pretty good in my classes before the breakup, so it all averaged out to be… well… average).
And this was just the first of three breakups that I went through with this same woman (!)
But if you can relate to this situation, I want you to know that you’re not alone.
I know it may seem like the person your ex dumped you for is your enemy. Maybe it even seems like your ex is your “enemy” in a sense too (on some level, it feels like you want to get back together, but they just want to strike you down and reject you!).