Last week, I asked on Twitter if anyone had ever been in a relationship with emotionally unavailable men before.
The response was “Yes!”
I also wanted to know how they knew the guy they were seeing was emotionally unavailable.
@Simone_Thatchic said that he just wanted to have fun.
@prettybathos said that the guy literally told her, but she didn’t heed the warning.
This got me wondering, what are the signs that you’re dealing with emotionally unavailable men (or women)… Or just anyone who isn’t relationship material?
(Note, I’m talking about emotionally unavailable men here, not just your average dude who might pull away now and again.)
Now, of course there’s an amazing list over at Baggage Reclaim that describes “Mr. Unavailable” (her term for these kinds of guys).
But today I wanted to offer some thoughts as well.
7 Signs He’s Not Relationship Material
1. He Is in a Relationship with Someone Already
First, of all what @Simone_Thatchic said was spot on when she said that a guy is unavailable when he just wants to have fun.
This can be especially true when a guy is already in a relationship with someone else (even if he’s not technically cheating).
Maybe he has a girlfriend. Maybe he’s married. Maybe he separated, but “the paperwork is still in the system.” Maybe he’s not over his ex yet (and you’re the rebound relationship).
Either way, his emotional energy is somewhere else.
At the end of the day, he’s not coming home to you.
Unless you are into polyamory or swinging, then a guy in a relationship with someone else does not have space in his life for a relationship with you.
Clay drinks way too much coffee, will probably like any beer you can't see through, and loves blogging far too much to ever stop.