Your Ex’s Complicated Emotions During a Breakup

When you’re going through a breakup and you want to patch things up with your ex, it’s important to understand your ex’s emotional world.

You’ve probably already discovered that apologizing or promising that things will be different doesn’t really work.

The reason why is because there are some emotions lurking beneath the surface that need to be addressed first.

That’s what we’ll be talking about in this podcast episode…

Additionally we cover things such as:

  • Why your ex walls you out and gives you the cold shoulder
  • What makes your ex only give you simple one-word answers and how to deepen the conversation
  • Why your ex might give you mixed messages and hot and cold behavior
  • Why it’s actually a good sign if your ex flat out tells you to date other people or that you’re “too good” for them
  • When to have “the talk” about getting back together.

References in This Podcast:

  • The 5 Stages to Get Your Ex Back
  • Clay’s Exclusive Relationship-Saving Newsletter

Getting your ex back can be a difficult and complex topic in and of itself. In case you’re wondering this is stuff that we cover in extreme depth inside the our course the Ex Solution Program.

Self-Inflicted Suffering: Waiting For Someone to Love You

Self-Inflicted Suffering: Waiting For Someone to Love You

I waited for years for him to accept me and to love me. I thought if I changed myself enough, he’d give me a chance and that he’d love me. The good thing is because of him, I learned a lot about love and life. I learned a lot of things about myself. I learned to accept myself and love myself. Because of him I grew a lot as a person. And as a result I came to see that this wasn’t the best relationship for me.

I guess deep down I always knew, I was too afraid to admit it because I didn’t want to lose him. But one day it just clicked– I knew I was waiting for someone that would never accept me nor love me.

I had wasted so much of my time and energy fretting on the one thing I couldn’t change… his mind.

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What Men Think Women Want in a Man

What Men Think Women Want in a Man

A lot of women want to know what men want.

It’s normal to wonder about things like this, especially if you want to have a great relationship, but you’re just not quite there yet.

However, things don’t just go in one direction.

Men also want to have great relationships with women (contrary to popular belief…).

What is it that men think women want? What is it they think that they need to have, be, and do in order to win the love of wonderful women like you?

This subject is a little bit close to me. After all, as a man, I used to be in the whole “dating game” before I met Mika. I know all the insecurities and weird hang ups that I’m about to share with you too well.

Plus, I know, from working with male clients, that a lot of my own concerns and worries are extremely common for men.

Here are a few things that men THINK you want in them.

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How to Be More Assertive (Part 2)

How to Be More Assertive (Part 2)

Last week I covered about assertiveness and how it helps us to have success in our dating lives. So today I’m going to explain a little on how one can develop assertiveness as a life skill.

A quick recap of what we covered last week.

Assertiveness is not to be confused with aggressiveness.

Aggressive behavior is more focused on you winning all the time and does not in to take consideration the feelings of other people involved.

Assertiveness on the other hand is a about maintaining balance. You have to be honest about what you want but at the same time be considerate about the rights, and wants of others.

Some people are naturally assertive and it comes easily to them, but for the rest of us its not so easy but with practice we can get there.  (more…)

How to Stand Up for What You Want (Without Being a Jack Ass)

How to Stand Up for What You Want (Without Being a Jack Ass)

Today I’m going to talk about something I personally struggle with, asserting boundaries, and why its so important in creating a healthy relationship.

Like I said earlier, I struggle with being assertive. I was brought up to think conflict is bad, and that one should never say no. And the way to getting what you want in life, is to be as nice as possible… even if it means you saying yes to things you dont like. I’m not saying don’t be nice to people, you should always be nice but within reason. And having to occasionally say no when it doesnt feel right to you does not mean we’re horrible people. Remember there a big difference between being aggressive and assertive.

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